There was a movie with a black actress (i thought might be halle berry in Losing Isaiah but not sure if that’s it) where she went to live in the country with relatives and worked at a diner-she had a candelabra which they referred to as a man’s name (which I also don’t recall) that she toted around and was always close to selling for the cash but didn’t to stay true to her heritage…..it’s driving me crazy!
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its directed by Maya Angelou & its called Down in the delta with Alfre Woodard